Most parents are just trying to do their best, but laying down the law can be damaging
The dilemma My parents found out that I had this white boyfriend, from going through my phone. Now they are constantly putting me down and making me feel worthless. I have grown to love this boy more and more, to the point where I can’t be without him. When I turned 18, I spoke to my boyfriend’s parents, who agreed that I could move in, as my parents hated me leaving the house. I walked out after my dad and mum told me to fuck off. I now live with my boyfriend’s family, but I am wondering whether my parents will ever understand.Mariella replies You are young. That’s not a criticism, but it does mean that these big life-altering decisions should be based on more than your immediate emotional impulses. It’s not that you shouldn’t be with this boy, but it’s premature for you to put all your hopes, dreams, ambitions and practicalities into one partnership. Indeed, I’d argue that that’s never a good idea, even in maturity. So many relationships turn sour when passion turns to responsibility. The more you and your boyfriend isolate yourselves the likelier you both are to feel what was once an instinctive union as a burden.
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